Posts for 'Women Behaviors' Category

The behaviors that you consistently do around women help to form the basis of your identity with women.
Changing your behaviors around women will also change your identity with women. This is why many men who are in a happy relationship with a woman, suddenly find more women attracted to them even when their partner isn't with them. Their behavior has changed and thus so has their identity with women. Yet, as soon as you find yourself single, instead of maintaining the behaviors that you know and saw were attracting women.

You chose to change your behaviors, which in turn changes your identity with women. Does this mean that your identity with women is limited to your experiences with women? No, it is simply limited by how you interpret your experiences with women.

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QUESTION: What advice would you give to a woman whose husband just won't respond to her emotionally? That's my situation. Darrell is a good man but he's not romantic and he'd rather keep his thoughts to himself. How can I deal with the longing inside me?

DR. DOBSON: Some men will never be able to meet the needs of their wives. They don't understand how women think and have never been required to "give" to anyone. Those who are married to these unromantic and non-communicative men must decide what is reasonable to expect and how they can forge a meaningful life together. Or they can seek an early divorce. I think the former is better!

If Darrell is such a man, my advice is that you attempt to show him, without nagging or becoming angry, how you are different from him and what your unique needs are. Work to change that which can be improved in your relationship, explain that which can be understood, resolve that which can be settled, and negotiate that which is open to compromise.

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Dads often get a bad rap for failing to help out more with child care; many employed women have commented on this blog and elsewhere that they pick up an undue share of the parenting duties. As Father’s Day nears, a new study suggests moms may have the power to change that — by offering dads a little more support on the home front.

In the closest look yet at how mothers’ behavior may shape dads’ involvement in parenting, a study of 97 couples with infants links both encouragement and criticism from mothers to fathers’ level of engagement.

Encouragement from mothers seems to have the most powerful impact, says Sarah Schoppe-Sullivan, lead author of the study, which appears in the June issue of the Journal of Family Psychology. Complimenting a man’s parenting, setting aside time for him alone with the baby, asking his opinion and praising his fathering in the presence of others, were strongly linked to greater paternal engagement and nurturing.

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If an expectant mother is exposed to high levels of stress, her baby may be more likely to develop asthma or allergies later in life, new research suggests.

Babies born to mothers experiencing high levels of stress had more IgE in their blood at birth than did babies born to less-stressed moms. IgE is an antibody involved in allergic and asthmatic reactions.

"Moms who had elevated levels of stress had children who seemed to be more reactive to allergens, even when exposed to low levels of allergens," said study co-author Dr. Rosalind Wright, an assistant professor of medicine at Brigham and Women's Hospital and Harvard Medical School in Boston.

Wright's colleague, and another author of the study, Junenette Peters, said that stress may make women more susceptible to allergens because it "may make the cells more permeable" so that even low levels of exposure trigger a reaction. And, women whose immune systems are altered by stress may, in turn, pass down that trait to their infants.

Peters, a postdoctoral research fellow at Harvard Medical School, was to present the findings Sunday at the American Thoracic Society's 2008 International Conference, in Toronto.

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Two weeks before graduation, teammates dressed five out of the six University of Tampa women's soccer freshmen in bright, colorful clothes and covered them in make-up, fingernail polish and marker.

Pictures from the party in an off-campus apartment showed the five freshmen women in Halloween-style makeup with fingernail polish around their eyes. At least two had hair painted on their chests and arms, and Haley LeMond wore a shirt that read "Property of Stack," an older teammate.

The women remained in their new attire when the team went to The Hut, a local 18-and-up nightclub that is popular with UT students.

The event, known as "Freshmen Fun Night," reportedly has been going on for years. As the pictures depict the senior members of the team dressed normally, questions about hazing arose.

UT's regulations state, "Hazing includes, but is not limited to … forced consumption of any food, liquor, drug, or other substance, or other forced physical activity that could adversely affect the physical health or safety of the student and also includes any activity that would subject the student to extreme mental stress, such as sleep deprivation, forced exclusion from social contact, forced conduct that could result in extreme embarrassment, or other forced activity that could adversely affect the mental health or dignity of the student."

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When news spread through town that ABC had passed over the Gilligan family for a spot on Extreme Makeover: Home Edition, family friends and supporters decided they were not going to accept no for an answer.

The Gilligan Family Alliance, headed by Paul Silva and Kat Knight, decided to take matters into their own hands and do something to improve the lives of the Gilligans.

The GFA launched last week, a Web site designed to solicit donations, volunteers and maybe most importantly to allow visitors to leave comments which are forwarded to the Marblehead Selectmen and ABC in the hopes the Gilligan family could be reconsidered for the show.

"Patrick and Amy Gilligan are my neighbors and friends. Given the burdens which they face on a daily basis, they amaze us all with their resiliency and upbeat natures. I am proud to be involved in this effort to rekindle the possibility of improving their situation," Silva said. "The benefit to their special needs' children would almost be immeasurable. I encourage anyone not familiar with the story behind the Gilligan Family Alliance to peruse this Web site and learn the story that has inspired so many of us."

Parents Patrick and Amy Gilligan do not complain about their problems, they just struggle day-to-day with everything life has thrown at them.

Their only son, Jackson, suffers from autism; daughter Karlyn has cystic fibrosis; and daughter Allison, who had lost the function of both kidneys, was on dialysis for a year before receiving a kidney transplant from her father. Not to be lost in all of this is oldest daughter, Alexandra, who, according to the Web site has had the greatest understanding of all the Gilligan kids as to the depth and seriousness of her siblings' health and who has always cared about someone else's needs before her own.

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The wife of former presidential candidate John Edwards, Elizabeth Edwards, has come out and attacked the health care plan of John McCain.

McCain is the Republican presidential nominee and apparently has a health care plan that would not even cover himself.

Edwards, who is a breast cancer survivor, stated that under McCain’s plan, she would not be covered.

Edwards stated that McCain himself would also not be covered.

A McCain adviser has come out and basically stated that Edwards does not know what she is talking about.

She has fought back at the adviser though with a statement.

“Apparently Douglas Holtz-Eakin, a senior policy advisor to McCain, thinks I do “not understand the comprehensive nature of the senator’s proposal.” The problem, Douglas, is that, despite fuzzy language and feel-good lines in the Senator’s proposal, I do understand exactly how devastating it will be to people who have the health conditions with which the Senator and I are confronted (melanoma for him, breast cancer for me) but do not have the financial resources we have. In very unconfusing language: they are left outside the clinic doors.”

Edwards has stated that Sen. Hillary Clinton has the closest health care plan to what her husband was pushing.

 Her lifetime accomplishments certainly out-sized diminutive Betty Huyler Gillies; a 1958 newspaper article described her as a 5-foot-1-inch, 100-pound dynamo who served as chairman of the All Woman Transcontinental Air Race (AWTAR) from 1953 - 1961.That chairmanship, according to Betty, was one of her most important achievements because it promoted the average women in aviation. Requiring detailed organization and attention, under her supervision the race grew from 49 aircraft (90 pilots) in 1953 to 101 aircraft and 201 pilots in the 1961 race.But AWTAR was only one of the "feathers" in Betty's cap; she began flying in 1928 when she was a student nurse at Presbyterian Hospital in New York City and obtained license #6525 May 6, 1929, after a total of 23 hours of flying time, including instruction. She immediately began building time toward a commercial license and joined The Ninety-Nines when it was formed in November of that year. She served as president from 1939-41 and was flying for Grumman Aircraft Engineering Corporation when the United States entered World War II. Having logged approximately 1,400 hours by September 1942, she became one of the original 25 Women's Auxiliary Ferrying Squadron (WAFS) members. By December of that year, she was named commander of the WAFS stationed at New Castle Army Air Base in Delaware. In 1943 the name was changed to Women Airforce Service Pilots (WASPS). "Just as well I was in on the ground floor...I was too short for WASP entry requirements," she would later say. Betty was part of an aviation family. Her husband "Bud" was a naval aviator and vice president of Grumman Aircraft. They had three children: A son and one daughter became commercial pilots. Another daughter, Barbara, died at the age of 4 of leukemia. Four grandchildren are pilots. One, Glen, is a member of the Palomar Chapter 99s. In 1964, Betty was appointed by President Johnson to the first FAA Women's Advisory Committee. She received a Paul Tissandier Diploma from the Federation Aeronautique Internationale in 1977 and the National Aeronautic Association Elder Statesman of Aviation Award in 1982, to name a few of her honors. During her term as president of The Ninety-Nines, the Amelia Earhart Memorial Scholarship Fund was established. Betty also worked with Charter Member Fay Gillis Wells on the AE Commemorative Stamp and The 99s flyaway of first-day covers. After garnering more than 50 years in the air, Betty stopped flying in 1986 due to vision problems. In later years, she continued to attend the annual Forest of Friendship celebrations in Atchison, Kansas, and became known for meeting friends on Saturday afternoon at the local drugstore for chocolate sundaes. Betty's life is celebrated by each of us every time we become airborne -- or enjoy a chocolate sundae at a small town drugstore on a Saturday afternoon in June.

When Lauren Bordato started working at Aon Corp. shortly after graduating from college in 2006, she learned the ropes quickly thanks to other women at the company.

"It's been the best support system I could possibly dream of," said Bordato, an account specialist at the Grand Rapids office.

On Wednesday, the Women's Resource Center will honor Aon's local office, Fifth Third Bank West Michigan and the Grand Rapids law firm Miller Johnson with the 2008 Pillar Award for their policies that help women employees.

Now Bordato is serving as a mentor to a new female employee, and still meets regularly with her mentors.

The Grand Rapids office initiated the mentoring program in 1999 to create opportunities for female employees.

In fact, Aon, headquartered in Chicago, based its new "Aon Leadership Model" after the local program. Aon specializes in risk management services, reinsurance and consulting.

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 In May, to honor the 99th birthday of Charter Member Achsa Donnels, individuals and chapters in the Southwest Section created a one-time scholarship awarded at the International Conference in Huntsville through the Amelia Earhart Scholarship Fund. In Achsa’s biography there is a picture of her at 4 years of age, standing in overalls, hands on hips, big grin on her face — and with a “take on the world" look. And that is just what she did. There was no present we could think of for a Charter Member turning 99 more appropriate than to create a scholarship in her name so that someone else could continue her dream. As a pioneering aviatrix, Achsa has plenty of stories to tell. What was her private pilot checkride like? Turns out back in ’28 the examiner wouldn’t get in the airplane with a woman, so she did what he asked her to do in the air with him watching from the ground! She remembers weekend flights in her Waco out of Bakersfield to the Los Angeles Basin and San Fernando Valley to visit friends and do a little shopping — one of these flights saw the basin fogged in and the sun setting. Achsa (with an oblivious passenger) had to do some quick calculations about where she was and do some blind faith flying to land at the airport. As she says, she flew to where she thought the airport should be, saw some lights through the fog, started a descent and there it was, Caddo Field with two beautiful runways. Her passenger was blissfully unaware that there was any kind of problem. She loved her Jenny. It’s what she learned in back in 1923. As she said, “I could imagine that I was sitting on the edge of a cloud, looking out over the whole world…In those days there was no smog, and you could smell fragrances of oranges, or whatever you were flying over, at all altitudes. The scenery was fantastic.” Achsa was a Charter Member of The Ninety- Nines, being one the original 99 (out of 117 licensed women pilots at the time) to respond to an invitation to organize in 1929. She told us of her friends Bobbi Trout, Amelia Earhart and Pancho Barnes to name a few. She talked about the early years of The Ninety-Nines and the Southwest Section. Changes in aviation? Mind-boggling. Taildragger to tricycle planes was a change that she regretted. She feels that everyone needs to learn in a taildragger — you have more feel for the plane. And all those instruments. When she learned, it was altimeter, airspeed indicator, tach and oil gauge, nothing like today’s aircraft. And she loved an open cockpit with the wind surging around her head.